Dead Dreams, Lost heart

Everyday starts as an adventure. You don't know what Allah will bless you with and who he will allow you to cross paths with. Just remember that no matter what has happened in the past, what mistakes you have made, there is always a brighter future ahead of you. Because after hardship comes ease. Today's post is actually dedicated to one of my friends and it also serves as a reminder to myself to never lose hope. 

I've always felt like rejection was the worst thing that happened to me. To be rejected by the ones I love, from the dreams that I wanted so badly, from the goals I hoped to achieve. But in all honesty, without this rejection, I would not be the same person that I am today. 

Lets just say that I've never been a straight A student, whether that's due to my academic strength or my own laziness, this has stopped me from being able to achieve what I want to achieve. Therefore at this current moment in my life I have no dreams, well no dreams for a constructive job anyway, but as much as I'm trying not to develop into a hot mess, I'd rather let the tides of life sweep me in the correct direction.  

I remember one day  I went to see one of my teachers at college, and this teacher could see that I was having a very hard time in college. Although my teacher didn't know what exactly was bothering me, they knew that I was lost, so they showed me this: “But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (Surah Al-Baqarah:216) Although I had seen this many times before, at that moment in time I released that this was the reminder that I needed. Sometimes were so lost in trying to achieve something that may not be good for us, but because we want it so much we turn into the terminator and end up destroying things around us to achieve this.

Even though life is so short, I've always felt like the journey of achieving your dreams is more important than achieving it. Because once you do achieve it, it will be special, besides who wants everything handed to you on a plate.

Well that's all I've got to say really, Jazakallah for reading this and as usual, this is a reminder for myself and foremost. 

Were all little boats sailing across the sea

I like to think of life like sailing. The tides are rough and the journey is never smooth but once you reach your destination you realise that it was all worth it. I guess at the ripe old age of 18 I'm still learning a lot of life lessons, whether they are big or small. Here are some of the things I've learn't I still need to implement

This first one is probably the most important one...Never (I repeat) never break a promise! I know it seem obvious right? But sometimes as humans we just can't help ourselves. So for example if your friend tells you a juicy secret seriously don't tell anyone...even your cat! I seriously promise you, I've done it before and even if the person forgives you there is still a kind of stain there! (So don't do it) 

This one particularly affects me the most! Don't strive for perfection! Yep! I know its one of those things that people always tell you to do especially if your at school or studying. I guess that we can get so hung up on perfection that we almost forget that its not attainable. The problem is that when you want perfection so badly you can end up crushing those around you and what's so ironic is that it causes you to be miserable! -so you won't be perfect after all.  

I guess this third one may apply to many people, as I know for a fact that so many people have gone through this... Caring about friends who use you! For me I value all my friends like the rarest jewel, so when a friends seems to distance from you  and only come to you when they need help/something it really hurts me. -I know helping people as a Muslim is very important but I really believe that friendship shouldn't be treated like a business, where it's just “you do this for me and I'll do this for you”. But for me what makes it worse is that I continue to try and keep that friend close even though it is clear that once they have no use for me. So what I've really learnt, in fact I'm still learning that I really need to concentrate on my “true" friends rather than getting caught up with people who don't want me or care about me! 

This just moves on to my last point which is about getting people to like you! I seriously suffer from this so bad... I really just want everyone to like me! Which in fact is totally unrealistic because the truth is that not everyone will like you. Where ever you go there will always be someone who doesn't like you for some reason, sometimes for no reason at all. I'm not one to judge because I have to admit even I sometime dislike others for no apparent reason. What I really want to learn from this is that If I judge how can I expect people not to judge me too. This kinda goes with the previous point about chasing after people who don't care, likewise you shouldn't chase after people who don't like you because you can't change someone's mind! 
Alhamdulliah, I'm so grateful for all the experiences that I have had, because I think no matter how bad a situation is, it shapes us as a person. I really hope this helps you all and I would like to use this as a reminder for myself and foremost.